But as Lorne Ladner says in The Lost Art of Compassion, rarely does it occur to us the very way we go about seeking happiness has been causing our problems.

• 但如洛恩 达纳在 迷失的怜悯艺术 所说的，我们很少会想到，忙于寻找幸福的真正方法，就是我们的问题的起因。