Bluntly, assertively refusing to comply with their demands withers them, because in their warped emotional environment, one person in each twosome must always dominate, the other be dominated.

• 坦率地、有主张地拒绝服从他们的需求会让他们蔫了，因为在自恋者们的扭曲的情感环境中，只要有两个人的场合便会有一个人必定要去主宰、另一个就一定要被主宰。